“I don’t know if I’ll cry; I don’t know if I’ll die laughing.”
I worked an early shift today (as opposed to my usual nights).
Thus I’m already drunk as David Crosby at new release party.
So take my words as you will.
[Although, I remind you, dear reader: In Vino Veritas.]
A homosexual friend of mine recently remarked (concerning one of the stars of the TV series ‘White Collar’):
“He’s attractive, in great shape, popular, wealthy, charismatic and has a solid career—
Of course he’s gay.”
Now, MGTOW’s tend to get a bad rap in the ‘sphere.
[I’m not calling MGTOWs homosexuals; hang in there with me]
In fact, I’m among those that tend to give them more credit than most.
Therefore, my friend’s words really struck a chord with me.
See, if a woman is meant to be a man’s helper—
Someone to assist him in achieving his True potential.
Someone to give him a leg up while he’s down.
Someone to bring to light to his darkness:
Why the Hell would I need one when I’m already on top of things?
That’s what always cracks me up about “hypergamy”.
The guys most attractive to women are the ones that have the least reason to stay with them.
Needless to say, the inevitable reply will be:
“But what about companionship?!”
Yeah, what about it?
If one woman is willing to be with a man, the overwhelming odds are every other woman will want to be, too.
And vice versa.
In short:
They’re filling a need that does not exist.
All the while, denying one that does.
It’s akin to giving a billionaire a free lunch.
There’s a Russian proverb that I wish more women would follow:
“If you want to be the wife of a general, then marry a lieutenant.”
Maybe that’s why the Russians seem to be in the lead, these days.
Just kidding.
There’s no “maybe” about it.
Ω
80-Proof Oinomancy 
September 24, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Stingray over at On the Rock has a post which tangentially covers the same point:
You need to get in on the ground floor.
If a man has already achieved success before women show interest, he will view them as a convenience, a pleasurable commodity to use whenever he feels the need. They will never be a core part of his life.
And yet as Rollo points out in The Curse of Potential, women don’t want to waste themselves on the lieutenant. They want the general. If they have any say in the matter, they don’t want to spend the time building up that Lt. into something greater, they expect him to do it on his own. Which, as you point out Ace, makes them entirely superfluous to him. But never mind that, because hypergamy doesn’t care.
This is where older women used to be so critical. They made it clear to younger women that if they wanted to be married to those generals, they needed to marry the lieutenants. Of course, those wise old women are long gone now.
September 26, 2013 at 11:08 pm
“Which, as you point out Ace, makes them entirely superfluous to him. But never mind that, because hypergamy doesn’t care.”
The base nature of men is to destroy others.
The base nature of women is to destroy themselves.
“Good men spiritualize their bodies; bad men incarnate their souls”
– Benjamin Wichcote
October 15, 2013 at 11:20 am
“women don’t want to waste themselves on the lieutenant.”
This is absolutely true. Over at the RedPillWoman subreddit (don’t go there – it’s maddening!) there are a bunch of girls (virgins even) looking for potential husbands, but they want everything NOW.
In one post this week we were talking about working vs SAHM and pretty much all of the girls stated that they didn’t want to scrimp or struggle for money so they were going to “have careers” throughout marriage and children.
Back in the day, struggling for money while your kids were young was the norm. My mom sold sandwiches to fraternities for extra money while my dad was in college. She made an investment in him instead of waiting to find someone who already had made it.
I asked the reddit girls why they wanted to outsource the parenting of their children to low-paid employees. Why have children at all if you only get to see them a couple of hours a day plus weekends? Whatever happened to “we were poor but happy” way of working your way up to middle class?
The girls lamented the fact that finding a young man that earns six figures was impossible, therefore they would not be able to be SAHM.
September 25, 2013 at 8:08 am
On the flip side with today’s destructive women…if you are on top of things why would you bring one in to tear down what you had to build on your own.
I know I’m still not a complete product…but there is very little a woman could offer me at this time to help me improve.
September 26, 2013 at 11:09 pm
Well put, Earl.
September 25, 2013 at 9:03 am
That’s why I don’t understand those men that continue to remarry and remarry. At some point, it should become obvious that something is broken, either within themselves or the woman they marry.
Personally, I’m two years removed from when the (x)wife moved out, and although I’m not into the full blown MGTOW, I really don’t see the value of a woman (at least one that lives with me) – at least at my age. What I have seen, when men remarry at a later stage in their live, what most end up doing is leaving their “money” to that wife and her family – rather than him own kids (or extended family) – because she will fight for every last penny, regardless of his wishes (or his will).
September 25, 2013 at 11:00 am
“What I have seen, when men remarry at a later stage in their live, what most end up doing is leaving their “money” to that wife and her family – rather than him own kids (or extended family) ”
I have seen this time and time again. It’s stunning to me that the surviving parent doesn’t make financial plans for their own children when they remarry. A lot of times the widowed person is in their 80s, too. A new marriage of a couple of years trumps 50-60 years of being their kid.
September 26, 2013 at 11:46 pm
Tempest,
Thanks for the warning; I should pass that on to my father.
If he were to cut me out of the will, leaving only my brother, I’d be fine with it.
But I’ll be damned if someone just comes along and claims the inheritance for nigh on nothing.
September 26, 2013 at 11:11 pm
Tin Man,
I’m closer to your position than many.
So I hear you loud and clear.
More than you may, in fact, believe.
September 25, 2013 at 9:55 am
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September 25, 2013 at 2:47 pm
Good stuff. This is why you’re better off focusing on yourself rather than chasing tail. When you’re at the top of your game the rewards are very much there.
September 26, 2013 at 11:48 pm
All too True.
September 25, 2013 at 9:23 pm
We love you from the bottom of our hearts, Ace.
Brandon likes to drink and blog too. He usually deletes it later. Can’t wait to see you!
September 27, 2013 at 5:17 pm
Having just come from Martel’s site, and having been reminded by experience again that always when you no longer need something it comes to you in droves, all I can think of while reading this is:
“For he that hath, to him shall be given: and he that hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he hath.” – Mark 4:25
And as always when I read your writing, I feel I have not seen all the meaning in your words.
September 29, 2013 at 9:53 pm
Valmont,
“And as always when I read your writing, I feel I have not seen all the meaning in your words.”
Thank you.
I take that as a compliment.
Truth be told, I’m implying a great deal and stating by a careful framing [the term in photography is “use of negative space”] the grave importance of feminine women.
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July 28, 2014 at 2:45 pm
Why do people rig horse races? Because the payoff is higher and risk non-existant if you already know who the winner is. That’s why women hate to bet on a Lt…. the race hasn’t started yet.