“…our thoughts compressed, which makes us blessed, and makes for stormy weather…”
If there is one thing that keeps the genders constantly misunderstanding one another, it is this:
When one is at rest—
The other is at war.
[This is also why their respective senses of humor are at odds, but that’s for another day.]
See, all of the situations [historically speaking] in which men and women found themselves caused the timing of conflicts to be diametrically opposed to each other.
Men would feel the pressures of danger while in combat or out hunting.
While women would feel the pressures of danger when the men returned [to compete for the best available/remaining mate].
Thus, encounters would only occur when at least one of the two would be in a state of agitation.
[Open warfare or working at the same place being examples of both parties being in such a state.]
This is a reason why women are [on the whole] overwhelmingly unhappy, these days.
They are stuck in a state of perpetual agitation.
They compete for men/status at work.
They compete for men/status at home.
They are driven to test the countless men they unavoidably encounter throughout the day.
Ironically, the attention that now flows more easily and frequently than ever is a tremendous contributer to the strain.
She must have more numerous, more adoring, social media admirers than her “friends”.
[The alarmingly common need/desire for “calming” drugs among females attests to it.]
No rest for the weary, as they say.
Equally interesting is the proliferation of BDSM experimentation, as of late.
This has seen an increase for the simple reason:
In defeat/submission there is peace.
See, deep in the darkest recesses of a woman resides:
The desire to be claimed.
To be owned.
Because, then – in complete, unconditional surrender – there can be no more war.
And nowadays, especially for women, peace is in short supply.
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December 25, 2013 at 4:02 am
I think I’m starting to see how this works and truly understand it as a reality. I’ve had it own pat when it comes to attraction in dysfunctional settings, but not the day to day.
Dysfunctional settings are all amped up – it’s either all green with flags to help you land from approach to docking gate or a runway so hostile it’s being bombed while you’re trying to approach.
The day to day setting is much more of a slow river with an eddie here or there. If you don’t know the river, what you think would be a difficult river is simply you being caught in a slow eddie of competition – once you put enough force to get out of it the water will work for you. But if you falsely believe the whole river is like the eddie, you’ll just get out of your boat before you get anywhere and look for a more pleasant river.
If all women want to submit, don’t auto-eject the first time she challenges from habit. Put forward a little effort to see if she’s like that constantly, or just has a ‘must have this much force to enjoy the ride’ limit. I think I’ve auto ejected a couple women that likely would have been fine after the initial hurdle, just because I’m used to the short game, all or nothing, dash for the end.
December 25, 2013 at 8:00 pm
Leap,
You’ve nailed it here:
“I think I’m starting to see how this works and truly understand it as a reality. I’ve had it own pat when it comes to attraction in dysfunctional settings, but not the day to day.
Dysfunctional settings are all amped up – it’s either all green with flags to help you land from approach to docking gate or a runway so hostile it’s being bombed while you’re trying to approach.”
Recall: Women are hard-wired choice-addicts.
So the more choices you feed them, the worse off they really are [like any addict].
Thus, to keep from going crazy[ier], they green-light those that quickly and efficiently pass the test in an instant and make the “runway” unusable for everyone else.
It’s the only way they can cut down on options while retaining choices.
This is why they like being owned/claimed [by the right man].
He cuts choices for them.
Removes the drug.
Hence, peace.
December 25, 2013 at 8:38 am
Great post. It should also be pointed out how this works in reverse for males. Sitting around being owned is like war to me…and doing actions is peaceful. I’d rather feel a physical pain through competition or doing something…than be haunted by the pains of my thoughts. Women certainly don’t understand how men can be internally happy when things don’t go well (may not be present at the moment but you get it in hindsight). Things not going well is a reason to bring about action and growth.
Put it this way…when’s the last time you’ve heard a man taking an anti-depressant for being busy all the time. That doesn’t even make sense to me. You have no time to think about how you feel when you are doing actions. However, my father was damn sure depressed when he lost his job.
December 25, 2013 at 5:26 pm
Exactly right, Earl. My dad always said that it’s better to be busy than bored, and he’d find stuff to do once the other stuff was done. I’ve strived to follow his example, for keeping busy does keep boredom and worries at bay. At my teaching job, there can be long periods of down time due to schedule changes and how the Korean school year’s set up. A common theme among the foreign teachers is what to do on the days without classes, which in turn sparks another discussion about how x should change. Many fail to actually use that free time.
December 25, 2013 at 8:25 pm
Earl,
Many thanks and a Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Peace be with you.
December 25, 2013 at 5:20 pm
Good call on Placebo. A good song that’s reminiscent of bad times. It was part of a soundtrack to a time when an ex and I fought a lot.
December 25, 2013 at 8:49 pm
Many thanks, Buck.
Merry Christmas to you and all the best.
December 25, 2013 at 9:39 pm
The same to you! Crank up “Merry Christmas (I Don’t Want to Fight Tonight)” enjoy the calm between Christmas and New Year’s.
December 25, 2013 at 9:58 pm
I will!
However, I humbly suggest my Christmas favourite:
December 26, 2013 at 3:42 pm
You really ought to write something about the different senses of humor. My and my husband’s are usually pretty simpatico, except that I can’t laugh at myself (e.g. set the rice cooker to going without water; an hour later there’s no dinner. He laughs at the absurdity. I cry.) I’d be interested in knowing where the divide exists in the aggregate.
Also, spot on for the rest. Though I’ve never known women to be at peace with each other no matter what the situation.
December 29, 2013 at 3:27 am
Laura,
Had the post about senses of humor and lost it to the void somehow.
[Linux is still imperfect, it would appear. As is its user, here.]
Thanks for the compliment.
December 27, 2013 at 5:27 am
Women are at peace with each other when a strong man rules over them, enforcing his house rules impartiality and not taking turns trying to make one girl happy then the next.
You’re balls on accurate about bdsm. Been told that exact same thing from…. well from every submissive I know.
December 29, 2013 at 3:29 am
Ton,
Thanks for the compliment and the support.
All the best to you.
May 29, 2017 at 4:29 pm
Ecce Ancilla Domnini. Fiat mihi secundum Verbum tuum.