“I’ve learned more about the blues in two weeks with you…”

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A statement I’ve heard three times since publishing ► this article ◄ is:

 

“What am I to her?”

 

I’m going to answer here.

 

And nobody will like it.

 

But first, let’s go over a few things.

 

 

 

Realize: women, on the whole, dislike commitment (contrary to the constant projection).

 

Because women benefit tremendously – emotionally and materially – from a plethora of options.

 

While men, on the other hand, do not. 

 

Since men are far more frequently the giver rather than the receiver.

 

 

 

Understand: commitment closes doors.

 

Accordingly, at its root, commitment is beneficial to men as it means resources – emotional and material – go to fewer individuals (women).

 

To women, it’s the opposite – for the aforementioned reason.

 

 

 

Thus, unless she’s damn certain she’s acquired exactly what she wants, back-burners are left cooking.

 

Commitment, to women, is a way to lock in their success.

 

No more; no less.

 

Think of it as a “save point” in a video game.

 

Come what may, she has that stable resource/supply.

 

 

 

This leads us to the promised answer.

 

So let’s get it over with, shall we?

 

If you don’t know what you are with her—

 

you’re nothing special.

 

 

 

 

 

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