“…and love the light that brings a smile across your face.”

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Some time ago I wrote of the almost inexplicable ► quality ◄ women possess to bring contentment to a man.

 

I’d like to take a moment to mention a powerful card in the hands of women that is all too underutilized in their dealings with men in this day and age.

 

I’d argue it is – in fact – the most efficacious one they have.

 

More so even than sex.

 

The quality or facet to which I allude is:

 

Appreciativeness.

 

 

 

While sex – and to a lesser extent charm – are the royals in the female hand, the ace is gratitude. 

 

Certainly, it can be a low card if squandered on abusive men.

 

But, barring the constantly mentioned (yet far less actually encountered) brute, appreciation is a high card in the female side of the game.

 

 

 

It takes little to no effort in assessing such to realize simple gratitude earns not merely a high percentage of its offering but exponentially greater rewards than it is as offered.

 

Meaning:

 

The return on being a grateful woman is far more than the appreciation invested.

 

 

 

Simply observe how much women get when expressing minimal (if that) appreciation.

 

Then take note how many – and how vociferously – men throw themselves into anywhere from inconvenience to danger just for a coquettish, softly vocalized “thank you”.

 

This observation alone indicates there is something ingrained in the male psyche to tie oneself up in knots for an internal chemical reward of staggering effectiveness.

 

[As a relevant aside, I believe sex to be weaker – on its own – as:

 

1} Sex is often a manifestation of appreciation and

 

2} Sex becomes less appealing as a reward as age sets in for both genders; sincere appreciation never goes out of style.] 

 

Indeed, when abused (and used intermittently), it is this quality that will have men literally killing – themselves or others – to gain mere scraps of it.

 

However, my intent here is not to be negative.

 

When used with humility, love and genuine concern for a man (and his life, in general) it is this quality that will fire his ambition and have him reaching the ► gates of Heaven ◄, itself.

 

 

 

I’ve known less than a handful of women that understand the True power of this gift of theirs.

 

I was reminded of one when, serendipitously, she contacted me as I was working this post out in my head.

 

During that conversation, she mentioned how she’d do dishes and clean the rental home the morning after parties three male college friends had, to which she was invited.

 

The men would fawn over her for those simple acts.

 

So much so that, later, one of their girlfriends noticed and said, with some vitriol, to her something very much like:

 

“All the guys want you.

 

Even my boyfriend.

 

It doesn’t make sense.”

 

To which she replied:

 

“I listen to men.

 

I enjoy listening to them.

 

It’s only right that I should give back for things they give me.

 

It’s not hard.

 

And if I wanted your boyfriend—

 

I’d take him.“

 

 

 

Though perhaps immodest, she wasn’t arrogant.

 

Since she wasn’t wrong on a word of it.

 

 

 

 

 

Q♥