“But ’til I get myself straight, I guess I’ll just have to wait…”

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During my time here in this corner of the web of ours, I’ve seen many men make many promises to their readers.

 

While the exact promises have varied, the preponderance of them have revolved around two things:

 

Material success and women.

 

 

 

This is not shocking in the least.

 

After all, those two things have been the primary concerns for men throughout human history.

 

Marketing toward those ends is certainly wise, regardless of the morality of the motivation behind it.

 

So I shan’t criticize, if for no other reasons than wisdom, itself, is to be respected; I myself have made certain promises (albeit slightly different than most) regarding women.

 

However, a thought has recently occurred to me that I’ve yet to see anyone explicitly state.

 

 

 

Perhaps this thought has never (at least in the areas I survey) been clearly stated because such an act is unnecessary.

 

But – whether it’s my age or my experience or some combination thereof – I consider very little to be obvious, anymore.

 

Thus, I’ll share it.

 

Like cars, private planes, boats, tailored suits, and other fine goods dangled before the eyes of so many men—

 

Women are a luxury.

 

 

 

Now, this is not to say women can only be afforded by men of serious financial means.

 

Certainly, such a condition helps and – dare I say – unlocks some doors.

 

But it is by no means a requirement for acquiring worthwhile female companionship.

 

Why, then, do I classify women as a luxury?

 

Because women can only be attained by abundance.

 

 

 

Abundance needn’t be material.

 

After all, it’s a well-known trope that deadbeats and ne’er-do-wells often have women latched firmly to their sides.

 

However, those men have an abundance of something.

 

While those particular somethings may vary, the abundance is certainly real – and necessary – to the women they attract.

 

Even women not attracted to those two types of men still require abundance. 

 

An abundance of understanding.

 

An abundance of emotional fortitude.

 

An abundance of patience (ask any man in a long-term relationship).

 

 

 

“Plenty of people have talked about ‘abundance mindset’ so you’re wrong.

 

It’s been stated.”

 

That’s why I qualified my statement with the word “explicitly”.

 

See, abundance mindset has been mentioned, no doubt.

 

Yet, pointing out women are a luxury (along with clarifying what abundance means, at its core) really hasn’t been done.

 

Which is important to do for a few reasons:

 

1} Luxuries aren’t necessities. One can live without the former.

 

2} Luxuries – depending on their scarcity and value – often require much time and effort to attain; rarely do they fall into one’s lap.

 

3} Once attained, luxuries are often costly to maintain. They may improve one’s quality of life immeasurably – thus justifying their costs – but it doesn’t change the fact they’re expensive.

   

 

 

Needless to say, this is why I’m always advocating a man look after himself and his needs first.

 

Because living beyond one’s means is a dangerous course.

 

 

 

 

 

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