“But ’til I get myself straight, I guess I’ll just have to wait…”

 

 

 

 

 

During my time here in this corner of the web of ours, I’ve seen many men make many promises to their readers.

 

While the exact promises have varied, the preponderance of them have revolved around two things:

 

Material success and women.

 

 

 

This is not shocking in the least.

 

After all, those two things have been the primary concerns for men throughout human history.

 

Marketing toward those ends is certainly wise, regardless of the morality of the motivation behind it.

 

So I shan’t criticize, if for no other reasons than wisdom, itself, is to be respected; I myself have made certain promises (albeit slightly different than most) regarding women.

 

However, a thought has recently occurred to me that I’ve yet to see anyone explicitly state.

 

 

 

Perhaps this thought has never (at least in the areas I survey) been clearly stated because such an act is unnecessary.

 

But – whether it’s my age or my experience or some combination thereof – I consider very little to be obvious, anymore.

 

Thus, I’ll share it.

 

Like cars, private planes, boats, tailored suits, and other fine goods dangled before the eyes of so many men—

 

Women are a luxury.

 

 

 

Now, this is not to say women can only be afforded by men of serious financial means.

 

Certainly, such a condition helps and – dare I say – unlocks some doors.

 

But it is by no means a requirement for acquiring worthwhile female companionship.

 

Why, then, do I classify women as a luxury?

 

Because women can only be attained by abundance.

 

 

 

Abundance needn’t be material.

 

After all, it’s a well-known trope that deadbeats and ne’er-do-wells often have women latched firmly to their sides.

 

However, those men have an abundance of something.

 

While those particular somethings may vary, the abundance is certainly real – and necessary – to the women they attract.

 

Even women not attracted to those two types of men still require abundance. 

 

An abundance of understanding.

 

An abundance of emotional fortitude.

 

An abundance of patience (ask any man in a long-term relationship).

 

 

 

“Plenty of people have talked about ‘abundance mindset’ so you’re wrong.

 

It’s been stated.”

 

That’s why I qualified my statement with the word “explicitly”.

 

See, abundance mindset has been mentioned, no doubt.

 

Yet, pointing out women are a luxury (along with clarifying what abundance means, at its core) really hasn’t been done.

 

Which is important to do for a few reasons:

 

1} Luxuries aren’t necessities. One can live without the former.

 

2} Luxuries – depending on their scarcity and value – often require much time and effort to attain; rarely do they fall into one’s lap.

 

3} Once attained, luxuries are often costly to maintain. They may improve one’s quality of life immeasurably – thus justifying their costs – but it doesn’t change the fact they’re expensive.

   

 

 

Needless to say, this is why I’m always advocating a man look after himself and his needs first.

 

Because living beyond one’s means is a dangerous course.

 

 

 

 

 

3♦

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11 Responses to ““But ’til I get myself straight, I guess I’ll just have to wait…””

  1. A♠,

    My first thought is that ‘abundance’ is a signal for ‘mastery’, of some kind. Of money, or a skill, or perhaps just of oneself.

    There are after all hordes of men with great jobs, lavish resources and generous hearts who have a hell of a time getting any woman’s attention. But they are seeking a master; they are too eager to submit. They’d never play ‘keep-away’ with ANY woman.

    My theory is that, where a woman’s Face is her Fortune, a man’s Fortune is HIS Face. And just as a beautiful woman will tease and be coy, a man really needs to do the same.

    ‘Fortune’ needn’t be money but success in some area that shows in his face. Confidence. Mastery. Wisdom. Unflappability.

    In other words, we don’t have to be good-looking to be good-looking. But they’re born with their Fortune, and we have to build ours.

    And like women, only foolish men give their Fortune to just anyone.

    • JD,

      Your drawing the line from “abundance” to “mastery” is excellent.

      I’m certainly leaning toward co-signing on its authenticity.

      Well stated.

      “In other words, we don’t have to be good-looking to be good-looking.”

      I’d phrase it:

      A man needn’t be good-looking to look good.

      All the best,

      A♠

      • A♠,

        ‘A man needn’t be good-looking to look good.’

        Agreed, a more succinct turn of phrase.

  2. Given their unstable natures and the smoke show that is people talking to them and the gulf between the words they use and what they mean, it seems women are attracted to deeply held convictions.

    At least, that’s one form of a abundance.

    Wald

  3. Eduardo the Magnificent Says:

    Couple of thoughts:

    It’s always said that you’re paying for pussy, even when it’s “free”. You’re investing either time or money into her no matter what. So you need to have some of that freed up or you won’t get very far.

    If her pussy (or looks, whatever) is said to have value, simple economics state she’s going to seek equal value for her wares. She can’t sell to the hopelessly broke.

    Lastly, much of the manosphere likes to refer to women as parasites. Well, a parasite is always going to look for a fat host over a frail one. This is always referenced by economic means, but surely time and mental & emotional capacity are part of the equation as well.

    It’s been known since the dawn of man that women seek to live in luxury. We’ve just never expanded our definition.

    • Eduardo,

      “It’s always said that you’re paying for pussy, even when it’s ‘free’ You’re investing either time or money into her no matter what. So you need to have some of that freed up or you won’t get very far.”

      I believe I wrote in my first book:

      Every man pays for sex, only the currency differs.

      “If her pussy (or looks, whatever) is said to have value, simple economics state she’s going to seek equal value for her wares. She can’t sell to the hopelessly broke.”

      Flawlessly stated.

      “Lastly, much of the manosphere likes to refer to women as parasites. Well, a parasite is always going to look for a fat host over a frail one. This is always referenced by economic means, but surely time and mental & emotional capacity are part of the equation as well.”

      This is the exact reason I value my readers (such as yourself) so highly:

      The ability – and more importantly willingness – to look at the totality of circumstances.

      All the best to you & yours,

      A♠

  4. May you find a fountain that runs clear, clean, and slack your thirst in times of need.

    If not, you can always do what most do – pray for rain.

    Just avoid drowning.

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