“I want to tell you, pretty baby, what I see I make my own…”

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The acronym “IDGAF” is likely known to just about every single person reading this.

 

How they learned its meaning may vary but they know, all the same.

 

The most probable means, in our case, is through the ‘sphere.

 

 

 

Indeed, the aforementioned attitude is encouraged by countless would-be gurus and newbies alike.

 

And, in fairness, it sometimes works as advertised.

 

Yet, in their hurry to share this effective revelation (I use that phrase loosely), I believe most miss the actual point of it.

 

See, the power of IDGAF isn’t that ⁂ a man doesn’t care ⁂.

 

It’s that he doesn’t care what she or, more accurately, ⁂ conventional persons ⁂ think.

 

 

 

Men all across the rebellious spectrum, from James Dean to Lemmy Kilmister, EMINNEM to 50 Cent and any others you wish to name didn’t/don’t get women because they fail to invest (or, more crassly fail to “give a fuck”).

 

They get them because they don’t invest in other people’s expectations.

 

In fact, I’d wager if you look at many men that most (women) perceive as not “giving a fuck”, you’d find they have their own code they very much “give a fuck” about.

 

So much so, I’d argue they follow them with a great deal of fervor.

 

 

 

Now, those codes vary.

 

I’d be disingenuous to say they didn’t.

 

But that changes nothing.

 

For every code to which a man stringently adheres (and demands others respect to at least a minimal degree), there’s a woman desirous of said structure.

 

This is because structure can efficiently ⁂ supply guidance ⁂, emotional security, and – if firmly believed – assuredness and confidence.

 

Thus, it’s imperative that a man formulate his own code and follow it with discipline

 

Truth be told, there are reasons I adopted the outlaw persona I have – both online and IRL.

 

This, I confess, is one of them.

 

 

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