“And she starts to cry and she’s asking why her life’s always the same…”

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So many men get confused and frustrated at more than a few aspects of female behavior.

 

As if those men have been faced with a puzzle that – beyond its difficulty – is simply nonsensical; a crossword challenge using a language that doesn’t seem to exist.

 

Near the top of the list of those aspects (if not actually atop it) is the continuance of deleterious or outright destructive actions involving relationships (romantic or otherwise).

 

 

 

Female actions ranging from putting up with awful treatment from relatives to abusive boyfriends to inviting toxic people into their lives cause men no end of consternation when witnessing such.

 

This feeling of befuddled irritation among men isn’t prompted by seeing the origin of such actions.

 

(Indeed, all of us misstep at points on our path through life.)

 

But at the renewed efforts toward maintaining them.

 

Understand that men are functioning perfectly normally at those times.

 

However, realize women are, too.

 

 

 
See, doubling down (to use a ⁂ gambling expression ⁂) is a female feature that helps in proving ⁂ resilience ⁂ – the ultimate female quality.

 

Failing to double down means quitting.

 

Which would demonstrate a lack of resilience.

 

Relatedly, I believe the exponential growth of female interest in seriously rough sex and rape porn is because no one is testing their resilience outside the bedroom.

 

Thus they seek to test it somewhere ostensibly safe (they trust their instincts in mate choice, rightly or wrongly).

 

All things considered, the problem is not that they do it.

 

It’s when they do it.

 

 

 

Women have a tremendous capacity to endure.

 

Not merely endure, actually, but struggle mightily under terrible conditions.

 

(Admittedly, this seems untrue to our modernity-clouded vision, but I assure you it is fact.)

 

If any human being can make a Heaven of Hell, it’d be a woman.

 

I doubt there’s a man reading this that would disagree.

 

 

 
Yet, the irony is, now “free” from societal male influence, they have no reliable safety valve to protect themselves.

 

Since, in the spirit of ⁂ brutal, covert competition ⁂, other women will frequently drive them out of relationships prematurely or to death (figuratively or literally) within them.

 

Few and far between are the women that will give honest counsel to their sisters, sadly.

 

Since they know all to well:

 

Corruption of opposition can be just as devastating as a killing stroke.

 

And often is.

 

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10 Responses to ““And she starts to cry and she’s asking why her life’s always the same…””

  1. Random thought I had while reading:

    I’m sure you’ve already told me this once before, but women aren’t necessarily supposed to make sense it seems. In fact, women don’t need to make sense to you for you to deal with them effectively it seems.

    Related to the post:

    I don’t think women reward men who show resilience. In fact it seems almost like they punish it.

    And everytime it seemed like a girl came to like me really quickly there were several things related (besides them being Latina).

    1) Good chemistry
    2) I wasn’t sure how much I really liked them and wasn’t in a hurry to make up my mind
    3) They weren’t sure if I even liked them at times
    4) Things went well if I made my decision after they had made theirs and all but asked me to be their girlfriend in some fashion (but not before)

    There. Despite my anger at something else, I managed to squeeze out a worthwhile comment.

    Wald

    • Wald,

      You wrote:

      “I’m sure you’ve already told me this once before, but women aren’t necessarily supposed to make sense it seems.”

      I did and I stand by it.

      In fact, that’s exactly what I meant by this line:

      If any human being can make a Heaven of Hell, it’d be a woman.

      There’s no logical way Hell could become Heaven.

      Yet, women seem to have the capacity to make unbearable situations infinitely more bearable.

      That contagious, delusional peculiarity is a feature, not a bug.

      All the best to you and yours,

      A♠

    • I don’t think women reward men who show resilience. In fact it seems almost like they punish it.

      That is because women don’t want a man who just takes it- they want a man who dishes it out. In other words, women look for strength in men, not resilience/toughness. Men are supposed to fix problems, not endure them until they are fixed- that is what women do.

  2. Women used to get married and have lots of children. That was certainly a place where resilience could be tested.

    Now with contraception and abortion…all they have now is trying to do it like a man does.

  3. I had to take a second after reading this.

    It’s not that they could make Hell Heaven but would delude themselves into it. “See?! Unlimited hot water for the tub, it’s always warm, never a draft, I can wear yoga pants all the time and I never need to cook. How is it NOT Heaven?”

    I think a chunk of their resilience is putting the Hamster in overdrive and letting it spin until it becomes an alternator.

  4. A♠,

    Without dominant men in their lives, what else can they really do but dive into the deep end of everything? In their souls they likely know the men they find a real ‘challenge’ are a dead end, but futility is just another form of suffering … and there will be other women to trade war stories with.

    There is still far too much attention being paid to them, in its own way a reward for foolishness. They never ‘lose’, they always ‘win’.

    And when the cat-ranching years come, then they can live in misery forever. Probably the female version of Butch & Sundance. Sounds romantic at 21 – not so much at 51.

    Until the average male can put up some resistance – or the entire bottom drops out of their state-supported la la land – this will be the pattern.

    • JD,

      “Without dominant men in their lives, what else can they really do but dive into the deep end of everything?”

      I’ve read this question more than once.

      I’m sure I’ll read it a few more.

      All the best to you & yours,

      A♠

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