“You and I are under-dosed and we’re ready to fall…”




Love is a drug.


I’ve said this before (obviously, I’m certainly not the first one to do so).


Although ⁂ I explained it ⁂ more fully than most ever have, I was still brief.


Here, I’ll expound upon it further.




To women, men are medicinal drugs.


When her mate is well-chosen (properly prescribed) and treated/received as he is, rather than as she wishes he’d be (taken as directed), men are tremendous aids to female well-being.


They help keep women stable, balanced, focused, prosperous and productive.


Indeed the exponential increase in female alcoholism, mental illness and terrible outcomes for the children of single mothers over the past few decades all support my statement (and my theory).


The reason for this is, over the ages of human development, women have come to need men on multiple, crucial levels.


The economic freedom they currently enjoy in the Western world merely fooled them into believing material needs were the sole necessity men historically provided, rather than the plethora they actually do.


Yet, to read this as “men always do only good for women” is to completely ignore what I’ve written.


I said “as prescribed” and “taken as directed”.


Anyone that can pick a newspaper or type into a search engine could easily discover that abuse of prescription drugs (and its subsequent awful consequences) is rampant and lethal.


My analogy very much extends to that scenario, also.


Do not take it lightly.




To men, women are recreational drugs.


Like booze, cigarettes and other such dangerous ⁂ luxuries ⁂:


Women take the edge off of life.


They give us something to which we can look forward after a long, difficult day.


Hell, ask a man who hasn’t gotten laid recently (or has, for comparison) and see how angry, edgy, dour and tense he is.


But I bet you already know how that will wash out.


Work in a blue collar profession (or even white collar, these days) and see how many men work simply for beer money, the newest video game or some other temporary dopamine hit.


Thus, to think comparing women recreational drugs is failing to notice their influence is to misunderstand, at best; idiotic, at worst.


Indeed, now that women have largely been removed as a reward for male effort, not coincidentally, male workforce participation has dropped to it lowest point.




Yet, like recreational drugs, to overindulge in women is the path to pain, penury and perdition.




Recall, at the end of the day, a massive purpose of pharmaceuticals is simply pain management.


And, for most of us


Life is really fucking painful.


Therein lies the dangerous conundrum.









12 Responses to ““You and I are under-dosed and we’re ready to fall…””

  1. The problem with recreational drugs is that they take the edge off life for sure, but they can’t take the edge off my own dysfunctional behaviors that cause me pain – and in enough time are another pain source on their own.


  2. A♠,

    To women, some kinds of men (or more directly, some kinds of experiences) are also ‘recreational drugs’, and the current relationship arc is to use them as such and everybody else is basically ‘methadone’ for when it’s time to get off them.

    The fabled ‘Carousel’ is a drug spree in a biological sense. When you’ve seen the dead look in the eyes of your former ‘girl next door’ Muse, or an ex-girlfriend … or horror of horrors, a daughter … it’s little different than the numbness in any addict’s eyes.

    And methadone isn’t a cure. There is no cure. She can fall off the wagon at any time.

    Traditional marriage was like the gold standard – even the lowest peasant received his wages in the money of kings. His reward was paid up front – he got a woman in her prime. The entire society was structured so this fool could be in love, and make all the sacrifices fools in love make, and actually win from it. He had a future to aspire to and a woman who bonded to him and helped him get there.

    But we all know how that ended up. That future is cancelled for most men before they’re even fully developed. No wonder they ‘power down’ these days … or go the other way and pile up money and status as high as possible. The only ways men have freedom anymore is either have literally nothing to lose or enough to speak freely without losing everything.

    As for women as a drug, well … to torture Donne, no man is an island because every man has a peninsula lol. The drugs are laced and the candy has random razor blades in it but they’re a habit we aren’t designed to kick. Most of the misery in mens’ lives is that we are forced to be stronger than we ever aspired to be. One way or another there’s a dragon and it refuses to slay itself.

    As Jordan Peterson said, we only get to choose which poison we drink. – JD

    • walderschmidt Says:

      “Most of the misery in mens’ lives is that we are forced to be stronger than we ever aspired to be.”

      This is a great line.


  3. This is too good of a post to not respond to with my own.

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  5. If you’ll allow me a comment:

    This is a great analogy. And apt.

    Women need to take medicines. Or, at the very least, it’s a very, very good idea that they take properly prescribed medicine, as directed.

    Women need that medicine. They must have it. If they do not receive and take properly prescribed medicine as directed, they will do quite poorly. They will not “die”, at least not right away. But they will not “live” as long.

    And we have women abusing “medicine” (men). Most of the time they don’t take the proper prescriptions, instead overdosing on self-prescribed (men) drugs that don’t work for them. Or, they get a proper prescription (man), but do not take it (him) as directed. Instead they waste the medicine or do not take it at all.

    • Deti,

      You understood my point flawlessly and articulated it in the direct, honest and accessible way that made (and keeps) you one of the greats of the ‘sphere.

      Not only would I allow your comments but I actively court them.

      Have you ever left one that failed to post?

      If so, please alert me by email.

      I assure you, if it’s happened, it’s not by my doing.

      All the best to you & yours,


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  7. I’d say that women CAN be recreational drugs, or they can be like OTC supplements.

    They’ll take the edge off, for a time, if “used” for that purpose. And all that you wrote about what follows I agree with.

    For a man with his shit together, a healthy outlook and an accurate understanding of women, they can also make life better than it otherwise might be (more than a dopamine hit).

    But – like any bodybuilding supplement, for the sake of this example – they’re not going to do shit for you in isolation. Take all the pills you want – you won’t improve if you’re not putting in the work.

    Women aren’t an escape, and they’re not a magic bullet either.

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