“The look on your face don’t deceive me; I told you before, so believe me…”

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After we’ve been dating for a few weeks, I take a moment that is pleasant – not exciting, dramatic or particularly memorable – but pleasant.

 

Then stop it with gentleness and firmness.

 

Looking her in the eyes, holding her gaze – like a father would his child – I say:

 

You know, if you’re ever discontent here (in this relationship) or feel you could do better—

 

I want you to leave.

 

 

 

I give her a moment to grasp the statement.

 

Then I go on with the day.

 

I’ve done this with more than one woman.

 

And I’ll do it with every one of them until the day I die.

 

 

 

I make this proclamation to her/them for a few reasons:

 

1} Women, being the ultimate pragmatists, will do it anyway.

 

Thus, my words are actually of little consequence.

 

2} Speaking such aloud is an icy reminder for myself that – at the end of the day – we are together at her whim.

 

Nothing more; nothing less.

 

3} It puts the frame under my control, even when it’s not.

 

In fact, especially when it’s not.

 

 

 

Permit me to be clear, the sincerity of my statement is total.

 

Regardless of my reasons.

 

I Truly want her contentment.

 

And I very much want her gone if I’m not her primary concern.

 

 

 

Personally, I find it best to play with all my cards on the table.

 

Since I only need one.

 

 

 

 

 

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