“… I can see you’re out of aces; for a taste of your whiskey, I’ll give you some advice.”
For the lurkers, detractors, and newbies, the ‘sphere’s attitude toward a man’s commitment to a woman is easily misunderstood.
I readily agree:
Commitment, for men, should be very slow in arriving.
But the reasons are deep, if simple.
See, when a man commits:
He places far more responsibilities upon himself than would otherwise exist.
His output – emotionally and materially – must increase significantly.
In a very real sense:
He hobbles himself.
In short, commitment pulls a man down while it raises a woman up.
Now, this isn’t to say commitment is without its benefits for men.
I’d be a fool and a liar to claim such.
But it’s crucial for a man to find the right woman.
A woman that will take what he gambles and provide a return for it.
This is also a reason why men should wait until they feel they’ve reached a certain level prior to committing.
Never gamble if you can’t cover your losses.
And never expect the poker table to make you rich.