The new normal

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/18/us/for-women-under-30-most-births-occur-outside-marriage.html?pagewanted=2&_r=2&hpw

 

I want to address a few lines from the article above:

“…’Marriage has become a luxury good,’ said Frank Furstenberg, a sociologist at the University of Pennsylvania.”

No, Frank.

You think that is because people who don’t marry and have kids are poor.

The answer is they’re poor because kids cost money that they don’t have.

 

 

“The forces rearranging the family are as diverse as globalization and the pill. Liberal analysts argue that shrinking paychecks have thinned the ranks of marriageable men…”

See countless manosphere posts RE: Hypergamy.

“Women here often describe marriage as a sign of having arrived rather than a way to get there.”

Which is exactly why they’re in the rough situation they are.

 

 

“Meanwhile, children happen. “

No, they don’t.

It’s not cancer; it’s pregnancy.

I can’t keep from getting many forms of cancer.

They can easily keep from getting pregnant or keeping the child.

Responsibility should not be confused with a lack of options.

 

 

“When a second child, with a new boyfriend, followed three years later — her birth control failed, she said — her boyfriend, a part-time house painter, was reluctant to wed.”

Why shouldn’t he be?

What man would want to raise another man’s child?

Answer: None.

That’s resources and effort spent giving another man his legacy.

Not to mention an ex-boyfriend she’ll never stop talking to and a man that could tell his kids to say the new guy molested/abused them, thus ruining his life.

 

 

“But for now marriage is beyond her reach.”

It wasn’t before but it’s getting there, now.

Nice job.

 

 

“Most of my friends say it’s just a piece of paper, and it doesn’t work out anyway.” 

Yeah, that’s the attitude.

Just assume failure and go from there.

That’s how humanity progresses.

 

 

“Almost all of the rise in nonmarital births has occurred among couples living together. While in some countries such relationships endure at rates that resemble marriages, in the United States they are more than twice as likely to dissolve than marriages. “

No shit, really?

A relationship built entirely in the imagination doesn’t last as well as one recorded and sworn in legally binding, material documentation?

Color me shocked.

 

 

“…’Women used to rely on men, but we don’t need to anymore,’ said Teresa Fragoso, 25, a single mother in Lorain. “We support ourselves. We support our kids.’…”

Unless you’re on welfare, food stamps, WIC or myriad other social benefits.

Then you’ve merely replaced one man with thousands of taxpayers.

The money comes from somewhere.

But, hey, now you don’t have to shave your legs or share the remote.

Go you.

 

 

“Ms. Kidd, 21, said she could not imagine marrying her son’s father, even though she loves him. ‘I don’t want to wind up like my mom,’ she said.”

Why not look at your mom’s behavior rather than just assume all men are pigs?

True, maybe your dad was a douche.

But maybe your mom was a stone-cold bitch.

There are reasons for things.

Nothing exists in a vacuum.

Or would that be too much personal responsibility?

 

 

“Others noted that if they married, their official household income would rise, which could cost them government benefits like food stamps and child care.”

So the rest of us have to pay for your shitty choices?

Great, in that case, send me money for whiskey and cigarettes.

 

 

“Lisa Mercado, an unmarried mother in Lorain, would not be surprised by that. Between nursing classes and an all-night job at a gas station, she rarely sees her 6-year-old daughter, who is left with a rotating cast of relatives.”

Getting your relatives to babysit constantly is not “doing it on your own”.

Sure, the guy is an asshole.

But who chose to fuck him and have his kid?

You did.

And it’s not like it was a surprise.

He had other women he abandoned.

You just thought you were special enough to be treated differently.