“…you feed it once and now it stays…”

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A new, but ardent, reader writes:

 

“No matter how much better I get, there’s still this nagging feeling of ‘not yet, you still aren’t good enough.’

 

How do I get rid of it?”

 

 

 

[My response to him follows:]

 

I’ll keep it brief.

 

On a scale of 1-10, how much do you forgive the failings/shortcomings of others [1 least; 10 most]?

 

 

 

Now, how much do you forgive your own?

 

If the numbers differ (I strongly suspect they do, and you give yourself the lower of the two), why?

 

Regardless of the answer to “why”:

 

Stop.

 

[Although you still need to answer the question for your personal growth.]

 

Make them equal – to the best of your ability.

 

 

 

To do so, imagine being as unforgiving to others as you are to yourself.

 

How well do you think that will work out?

 

Exactly.

 

Thus, you should probably ease up on yourself a bit.

 

 

 

Remember, Christ (if you’re not Christian, this is still good advice) said:

 

Love others as you love yourself.

 

Not more than yourself.

 

Common error.

 

I made it for 30 years.

 

 

 

Anything else I say at this point will be uninformed noise.

 

So think on those questions.

 

 

 

All the best,

 

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[Ace of Spades]

 

 

 

 

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