“I just don’t understand how you can smile with all those tears in your eyes…”

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Throughout the course of my life, I’ve been called “bitter” and “cynical”.

 

Much of my online oeuvre has led me to be considered “too dark” for more than a few readers.

 

So imagine my shock and surprise when a comment I received read:

 

“MGTOW is the actual chimera recognition of their evil existence on this earth and the freedom to escape the false dream promised and betrayed. Cheers from reality and how it truly is.”

 

 I confess, deluded is something I’ve never been accused of being.

 

Just goes to show that there’s a first time for everything.

 

But this does prompt an important post.

 

 

 

See, I’ve worked hard to avoid discounting any man’s experience.

 

Whether my reality is yours, or vice versa, is irrelevant.

 

As I wrote in ► my first book ◄:

 

Experience is a despot.

 

Meaning:

 

The events of our lives mold and control us almost utterly.

 

Regardless whether we admit – or realize – it.

 

Men date women much like their mothers.

 

Women date men much like their fathers (especially if they didn’t really have one but that’s for another day).

 

 We all recreate our childhood paradigms in adulthood.

 

Yet, our’s is not an unalterable course.

 

 

 

So what I do try to demonstrate is that a change of thought (and subsequent action) can – and often will  – change our experiences.

 

Thus altering our reality.

 

My road into and through Hell taught me just how powerful breaking patterns of behavior and – more importantly thought – is in making life more bearable (if not enjoyable).

 

In fact, dating not one but two Borderline Personality Disordered gals led me to the quick admission that I was the common thread in my horrific fate.

 

And the fact that particular thread needed cutting.

 

After that, I’ve dated plenty of girls that didn’t cheat, steal or mistreat me.

 

Because I knew what traps to avoid.

 

 

 

That being mentioned, I’ve never once said men, women or life itself were perfect.

 

Quite the opposite, if you look through this blog at even a cursory level. 

 

What I have said, at many times and in many ways, is:

 

While experience may be a despot, you are the rightful monarch of your [earthly] existence. 

 

You have the power to make it all worthwhile.

 

And, honestly—

 

That’s almost as good.

 

 

 

 

 

K♣