“Ain’t me, it ain’t my crime; your rap, ’cause it ain’t mine…”

Martel has a splendidly candid post:

An Anectdote

To which, a reader-whom I consider to be the “thread winner”-gives this dialogue:

An Anectdote

 
I flatter myself that anon has familiarized himself with my work:

“Let’s make some honey, honey, in so many words…”

Winner, indeed.

 
Anon, you got it.

Remember:

The real reason women don’t like guys that are emotional tampons is because it forms a negative impression of her confidante in said woman’s mind.

If she only talks to you about/when she has problems, she’ll begin to associate you with those very negative feelings [consciously or subconsciously].

This is why, even if you are in a LTR with a woman, you should never really “troubles talk” with her.

A wise man [in a LTR] listens and nods for a brief time.

Gives her non-sexual physical contact.

Reassures her things will work out.

Then changes the subject.

[If you’re not in a LTR with her, skip everything; simply change the topic immediately].

 

See, if he’s nothing more than a sounding-board or stoic wall, he really can’t be emotionally associated with the negativity.

Note: This is also the reason many women will be with the worst example of “man” yet always forgive him or keep running to him.

He never allows her “bad moods” [wrongly or rightly] to stick to him.

Thus, she never Truly emotionally/internally associates him with “bad times”, regardless of any protestations she may offer.

Don’t believe me?

Try changing the mind of a woman in that particular situation.

I’ll be here.

 

 

 

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