“Don’t care if he’s guilty; don’t care if he’s not…”

 

 

 

 

 

 

One of the most important topics that frequently gets mentioned in our corner of the web is, oddly enough, rarely actually discussed in any meaningful way:

 

The “rationalization hamster”.

 

 

 

This fascinating creature is either passingly mentioned as a nuisance to be acknowledged.

 

Or, more often, defamed as a monster to be slain.

 

Neither of which is satisfactory to your humble author here.

 

 

 

See, it should be treated as what it is:

 

A boon (if somewhat difficult) companion.

 

While I certainly have no expectation to change the parlance of the ‘sphere, a more accurate representation (to me) would be the “rationalization steed”.

 

Something to be tamed and made to work for the betterment of both parties.

 

 

 

PUAs may recognize the existence of such a thing but they do not spend enough time with it to see its uses.

 

Let’s recall a few lessons I’ve imparted over the years:

 

1} Women are the ultimate pragmatists. 

 

2} A woman argues to convince herself of things more than she does to change anyone else’s mind.

 

3} Women are inveterate gamblers.

 

4} To women, a problem is never a problem; only the feelings a situation generates are problematic.

 

5} As a group, women are never as present emotionally in relationships as they are physically (geographically, not necessarily sexually).

 

 

 

Now, with all of the above firmly in mind, realize that the rationalization steed will buck and kick constantly.

 

It knows only purposeless freedom. 

 

It cannot (rather than “will not”) see that there are long term benefits to a symbiotic relationship involving consistent submission on its part.

 

Its knowledge encompasses the “now”, with only impressions from the impact of past experiences and close to zero concerns for the future.

 

Such is the fate of beasts.

 

Thus, it must be demonstrated to it that in loss there is victory.

 

 

 

As gamblers, women are thrilled by the loss and want to see if they can win again (or, preferably, not).

 

As pragmatists, the more a woman invests (emotionally) the far less likely she will be to divest.

 

[Recall, men and governments are all too free with their resources, so that’s not often a consideration in the weighing.]

 

As inherent self-doubters, women constantly need to reaffirm their choices.

 

Thus, should a man make serious demands (somewhat frequently) yet give generously (on less frequent occasions), she’ll constantly be justifying her decisions to stay with him.

 

 

 

Break the steed and it will be eager to prove its worth.

 

Leave it to its own devices and it will run until someone else is able to do so.

 

Regardless of the fact that its life will be shorter and more arduous. 

 

 

 

Although it’s easier said than done, the secret is this:

 

Give the steed a burden light enough to permit it movement and a healthy gait.

 

Yet heavy enough to convince it to carry it happily to show its value.

 

 

 

 

 

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20 Responses to ““Don’t care if he’s guilty; don’t care if he’s not…””

  1. […] “Don’t care if he’s guilty; don’t care if he’s not…” […]

  2. Something that is missed with male and female hamsters alike, is that they are both rooted in tribalism and doctrine. Give a human religion and we will rationalize religion. Deny a human religion and we will religiously rationalize non religion. Give a human power and we will rationalize why we have it.

    Arguably, most modern women have too much power, too little reason for it and too much self doubt to rationalize it on their own. Imagine being put at the head of a vegan wholefoods supercompany today. You don’t know quite why, what the previous CEO was doing to succeed, but you like the money, the power and the vegan hippie girls throwing themselves at you. You are continually pressured to never admit your flaws, your fears or your weaknesses. This is how out of their depth most leftists (male and female alike) are. They believe they have to represent non-religion, progressivism, women, men, feminists, equality, diversity, etc. They believe they and only they can be the face of their “company”, their “religion”. Their only purpose in life is to sell an ideology. Is it any surprise that they rationalize and argue as fervently as any religious zealot, only twice as irrationally?

    • SSW,

      Oddly enough, your opening line is the only portion of your comment with which I disagree.

      “Something that is missed with male and female hamsters alike, is that they are both rooted in tribalism and doctrine.”

      I’m of the mind the steed emerged from a need to survive.

      Which is exactly why men do not have it to the severity women do.

      Men are more physically capable to respond/alter threats to life.

      Women, less so.

      Thus, females acquired such to more readily adapt to circumstances which were (through no fault of their own, necessarily) beyond their control.

      If one is able to mentally accept one’s circumstances, one is far more likely to survive.

      The mind is a powerful thing, indeed.

      Stay well,

      A♠

      • I don’t deny that’s an important element of it, but I think you underestimate how change-averse the average human is. Hamstering comes as much from a desire for comfort as from a need for survival.

        I’d also argue that the male hamster is a slightly different beast (what mental function isn’t between the sexes?) but also grows when men are comfortable and wish to remain idle of mind.

        Then again, this suggests that aversion to change probably has some survival element anyway, or it wouldn’t be so strong and so commonplace.

  3. Thank you for pointing out the obvious hypocrisy that men often display with the hamster. We are often unaware of it, as women are as well. It is not a conscious reaction, but rather evolutionary in nature. We never would have survived if we didn’t believe that what we were doing at the very moment was the right thing to be doing.

    “Give the steed a burden light enough to permit it movement and a healthy gait.

    Yet heavy enough to convince it to carry it happily to show its value.”

    This is beautiful. I enjoyed reading this Ace. Nice choice of song as well. I really wish The Civil Wars were still putting out music.

    • Braivo,

      You’re quite welcome.

      I’m glad to be of assistance.


      “We never would have survived if we didn’t believe that what we were doing at the very moment was the right thing to be doing.”

      Agreed 100%; please see my reply to SSW above.

      And my sincerest thanks for your kind words and attention.

      Stay well,

      A♠

  4. You’ve touched before on your relationship to the Manosphere, and your relative lack of ‘celebrity’ given the standard of the content you put out. I’m sure you have your own ideas why, but if I might offer some unsolicited thoughts:

    The Manosphere generally appeals to the reason and intellect of intelligent men, and this is the strength of writers like Heartiste et al.

    Your work seems to me to aim at the Truth in our souls, whether it is something you do consciously or not I do not pretend to know.

    The ‘populist’ writers of the Manosphere offer intelligently reasoned tracts that appease smart men’s need for rationality, whilst actually providing them with a vehicle to indulge their emotions and frustrations. Their ‘solutions’ are of the mind, not of the Soul.

    Your work offers little such comfort – no simple answers, no ‘men, you’ve been sold a raw deal and you are smart to see through their lies’. To the extent you do touch on this, it is inevitably a vehicle for a deeper truth.

    That truth is that, for all your talk of bitterness, and your honest descriptions of your struggles with the English Malady, your message is one of deep and abiding hope. This is something that the others are not able to offer, because they only understand at an intellectual level.

    When I read your work, I don’t just see your work at an intellectual level, I see the Truth of your Soul, and in it see my own. You may never be popular, you may never be fashionable, and 50 years from now your writing may have disappeared, but your Truth will endure, and be every bit as Real as it is now. There are not many writing any medium for whom that can be said.

    • Henry, worthy readers are a writer’s most satisfying accomplishment. They are certainly the hardest to fake.

      I suspect your comment has made our host’s day, for reasons that go beyond the complimentary things it said.

      • Thank you for your kind words, Joe, and for taking the time to read my comment and respond so thoughtfully. All the best, Henry

      • Joe,

        As usual, you nail it.

        Your words re: readers are my thoughts exactly.

        And I’ve definitely read Henry’s comment more than a few times.

        All the best to you & yours,

        A♠

    • Henry,

      Your comment has had a tremendous impact on me.

      Words fail me, at the moment, to describe its effects but I’ll certainly try to address some of the easier points you raise.

      As always, I prove my honesty with my consistancy.

      I’ve no idea how long you’ve been reading my work, but I invite you to look through my oeuvre to verify what I’ll claim below.

      “Your work seems to me to aim at the Truth in our souls, whether it is something you do consciously or not I do not pretend to know.”

      It is most certainly a conscious effort on my part.

      It is (and has been) a struggle since I began oh so long ago.

      “To the extent you do touch on this, it is inevitably a vehicle for a deeper truth.”

      Well spotted.

      That is (and, again, has been) my method for conveying such.

      While I am certainly no messiah, I recognize the utility of parable (taken from real events in my life).

      Your closing paragraph is my goal and you honor me by confessing that I have, if with you alone, achieved it.

      My deepest gratitude and sincerest best to you for your comment,

      A♠

      • Dear Ace,

        Forgive me for not responding to your kind comment. I checked for the first few days, but didn’t receive a notification informing me you’d replied.

        I do love your work, and that is not hyperbole. I was going to tweet at you just now, telling you that your current silence is felt, and that I for one am lonelier for it.

        I hope you are well, and I hope you are writing – even if it goes unpublished.

        Though I feel I know you in part through your work here, I should like, in a kinder world, to know you in real life.

        Your friend,

        Henry

  5. Hah. I always thought of it as “give her hamster a wheel, hook it up to a powet generator, and you’re set.”

    I view the idea of keeping her busy with worthwhile work as something separate. (Note that I consider back rubs and the like worthwhile.) Show her when you’re in a good mood and relaxed, that she benefits from your good will. Last night I had my fiance push hard for me to stay after talking and prayers just so she could give me a head rub and help relax for the evening.

    Give them burdens that train them into the women you want to be bound to, and they’ll bind themselves to you of their own free will

    • Chad,

      “Give them burdens that train them into the women you want to be bound to, and they’ll bind themselves to you of their own free will.”

      That’s my post in a nutshell.

      Flawlessly stated.

      Many thanks.

      A♠

  6. […] suggests it’s not so much a Rationalization Hamster as a Rationalization Steed, and put it to productive use. Hamsters sure are cute, […]

  7. The Rationalization Rodeo.

  8. […] “[…] a more accurate representation (to me) would be the ‘rationalization steed‘.” […]

  9. This was a great and insightful post

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