“To feel the pain that spurs you on…”
A major conflict that has been raging, unnoticed, for nigh on two decades has been:
The Resilience Wars
As this article shows, Caucasian female deaths from alcohol consumption have increased dramatically.
Many wonder why.
I’m not among them.
I’ve little doubt as to the causes.
I’ll state my conclusion, given the statistics provided and the knowledge I’ve shared here.
First and foremost, understand that, generally speaking:
Women use alcohol as a poison.
Men use alcohol as an anesthetic.
Men use it to escape misery; women use it to wallow in it.
Men try to show how much they can drink without getting drunk.
Women drink to show how drunk they can get.
As I’ve stated previously, women use suffering (subconsciously, at least) to demonstrate resilience.
Note: the article mentions the increase in white women’s rates, specifically. This is due to the simple fact that white men are the most uxorious bunch, out of the races (of men) implicitly provided. Other females have their need to suffer met. Thus, they feel no need self-administer. I remind you, dear reader, we’re speaking in aggregates in this post.
In fact, more often than not, women’s complaints are (at heart) actually backhanded boasts of how much suffering they can take.
Tangentially: This is the reason they hate it when men try to solve their problems (when women don’t outright request it) —
It denies them the bragging rights.
It’s also why they mutilate themselves, these days, with terrible hair styles, unconventional piercings, obesity, tattoos and the frequent usage of obscenities.
Since they’ve been denied external suffering, they’ll bring it upon themselves.
This is also why, in a macro sense, the statement “women ruin everything” originated.
1} They join a group
2} Use it as a proxy for the self
3} Test it (= test themselves) by going so far as to actually welcome destructive forces
Before the cry is raised, permit me to say:
Yes, all women are like that.
The exceptions prove the rule by having had sufficient misery in their upbringing/past.
(Keep in mind, while the need is without exception, the degree to which it is necessary differs tremendously per individual.)
Thus they feel no need to invite more.
This is also why, historically, grandmothers are sought for female advice rather than mothers, sisters, et al.
They’ve suffered enough so as to not feel the need to poison the well.
As I wrote in my first book:
In fairy tales, the most desirable/marriageable women
had terrible & harsh lives [“childhoods”].
This is not a coincidence but a lesson.
Now, to read my words here as a call to abuse women would be a gross misunderstanding, in every sense.
It should, instead, be read as what it is:
An elucidation of where the long, winding trail of human existence has led us.
And what we need to see in ourselves because of it.