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Not long ago, a young man in one of my gaming groups called asking for some guidance (unrelated to RPGs).
He’s been dating a young woman recently and, as is to be expected, has developed feelings for her.
However, this has brought him an equal amount of stress as it has joy.
He now finds himself feeling undeserving of the good time he’s been having.
Additionally, he’s frequently struck with the dread of her sudden, inexplicable departure.
She’s given no indication of such happening, he readily admits.
Yet, he still awaits the other shoe to drop.
My response was two-fold and, in the interest of potentially helping others, I’ll share it below:
1} Don’t feel unworthy. Unless she’s with you due to deception or intimidation on your part, then her choices are hers; let her make them. Nothing more need be said.
2} As far as awaiting a heartbreaking ending – think of this as being given a green wristband – with no other markings whatsoever- which permits you to be in an amusement park you really like. It grants you the ability to ride the rides, appreciate the sights and generally just enjoy yourself. The sole downside is that you’ve no idea when the staff will ask you to leave; only they know what duration of visit green bands allow. Understand, also, that green wristband applies to pretty much every relationship – from co-workers to spouses. Things can come to an end at any moment or over any length of time. Whether it’s disagreement or death or a million things in between, life is far less within our control than most care to admit.
Thus, try to be grateful for what you get and appreciate it while you’re there.
Sure, some rides may be disappointing.
Some may be terrifying.
Some may be breathtaking.
But – for better or worse—
None of them will last forever.